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Welcome – it's lovely to see you.

Most people arrive here feeling like they're carrying too much for too long.

You might look like you're coping on the outside, but inside you feel overwhelmed, stretched, anxious or disconnected.

Maybe you're the person everyone relies on. The one who thinks ahead, keeps things running and looks after everyone else.

Perhaps you've become so used to putting other people's needs first that you're not even sure what you need anymore.

You might find yourself people-pleasing, struggling to say no without feeling guilty, feeling responsible for other people's emotions, or carrying a constant sense that you should be doing more.

You don't have to hold it all together on your own anymore.

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I'm Lynsey, an NCPS-accredited counsellor based at Tapnage Farm near Wickham, Fareham, in Hampshire UK.

I work with adults experiencing overwhelm, anxiety, grief, people-pleasing, over-responsibility, low self-worth and difficulties with boundaries – particularly when you've spent a long time being the capable, caring or dependable one.

Therapy with me is a chance to slow down and make sense of what's been happening beneath the surface.

Not to "fix" you.

Not to give you another list of things you should be doing.

But to understand what's keeping you stuck, explore the patterns you've learned, and begin making changes that help you feel more like yourself again.

You're not broken. You've probably just been strong for too long.

Let's chat

What therapy with me feels like

Therapy isn't about being "fixed" – it's about being understood.

It's a space where you can show up exactly as you are, without pressure or judgement.

Together, we'll make sense of what you've been carrying – exploring your emotions, patterns, relationships and experiences at a pace that feels right for you.

You might be trying to understand why you keep putting everyone else first.

You might be learning to set boundaries without being overwhelmed by guilt.

You might be processing grief, navigating a period of change, or simply wondering when life became so exhausting.

Whatever brings you here, we'll start where you are.

My approach is warm, down-to-earth and relational. I want therapy to feel like a genuine conversation with someone who is interested in understanding you, rather than putting you into a box.

You don't have to sit in a therapy room if you don't want to

Therapy with me can take place in the warmth of my countryside therapy space at Tapnage Farm, online via Google Meet, by telephone, or outside on a walk-and-talk session.

For some people, being surrounded by nature makes it easier to slow down, think, talk and breathe.

There's something about walking side-by-side rather than sitting opposite someone that can make difficult conversations feel a little more natural.

However we meet, the aim is the same: a steady, supportive space where you can breathe, reflect and begin to feel more like you again.

You might recognise yourself here:

You're the person everyone comes to when something goes wrong.
You find it difficult to say no, even when you're already stretched.
You feel guilty when someone is disappointed with you.
You spend a lot of time thinking about what everyone else needs.
You're exhausted from always being "the strong one".
You know you need boundaries, but actually putting them in place feels uncomfortable.
You're carrying grief or change that you haven't really had space to process.
From the outside you're functioning. Inside, you're struggling.
You want things to change, but you don't want to become a completely different person in the process.

If any of that sounds familiar, you're in the right place.

What my clients say...

"You radiate an aura of calm.

You're a safe space for me to share"

‘It helped so much to have a sounding board to share my feelings and to be given tools to help me through the process of my first experience with grief and bereavement.

I was also able to share some of my tools with my partner & family but it also helped me to have a space away from them to talk through my personal experiences.’

“Those sessions I had with you have helped so much,

I am all about boundaries without guilt, life changing. “

About Lynsey